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Couples Conversations™
Free resources
Everything here is free, and none of it is filler.
A 76-page workbook, eleven videos, and fifteen articles. Start with whichever one fits tonight.
The workbook
Nine guided conversations, in your inbox in two minutes.
Real scenarios, more than 100 prompts, and the one skill that makes every conversation land. It is what I hand couples in my office.
Free · two minutes
Take the quiz
The Relationship Quiz
Seventeen honest statements, no scores and no grades, and a clear read on what is strong and what could use a conversation.
Videos
Three to watch together this week
Walking on eggshells? The truth about your partner’s reactions
8:03 · pairs with Vol. 2
The real reason couples lose intimacy
6:49 · pairs with Vol. 3
Why your marriage feels off, even when nothing is wrong
8:37 · pairs with Vol. 1
Articles
Six short reads to start with
Having a Couples Argument in Your Own HeadWhy the rehearsal you run before the real conversation is the part that does the damage.
Bids for ConnectionThe tiny reaches for attention that decide whether a marriage feels close.
Lonely in a Decent MarriageNothing is wrong, and you are lonely anyway. Why that happens and what to do.
The Gottman Soft StartupThe first three minutes predict the rest. Here is how to open.
Mental Load in MarriageThe invisible list one partner carries, and how to put it on the table.
Family Boundaries in MarriageWhen the in-laws are the third person in the marriage.
When you are ready for more