Couples Conversations™
Volume 1
Strengthen Your Foundation
300 questions to build trust, love, and emotional connection
Where most couples should begin: your story, getting to know each other deeply, and strengthening the “we.”
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Books and tools
Everything here does one thing: it gets the two of you talking.
Five volumes of guided questions, the Master Edition that holds all of them, books for engaged couples and newlyweds, a card deck you can print tonight, an app, and a 90-day program for the partner who is ready first. Ordered by what is happening in your relationship, not by what sells.
From the author of The Ultimate Relationship Workbook for Couples (4.5 stars, nearly 1,000 Amazon ratings).
Shelf one · Start tonight
The five volumes
Each book holds 300 guided questions on one area of a relationship, arranged so the early questions are easy and the later ones go somewhere. Recommended by Dr. John Gottman.
Volume 2
Strengthen Communication
300 questions to resolve conflict, manage emotions, and communicate effectively
For the couple who keeps having the same argument. Safety, emotions, conflict, and supporting each other’s dreams.
Volume 3
Reignite the Spark
300 conversations to boost romance, passion, fun, and intimacy
Romance, physical connection, flirting, and play. The volume for couples who have become excellent roommates.
Volume 4
Deepen Your Connection
300 questions on values of faith, finances, and family
The conversations that decide a life together: what you believe, how you handle money, and the family you are building.
Volume 5
Building Our Future
300 questions to overcome challenges and build lifelong dreams
Gratitude, hardship, and the future. For couples facing a big decision or coming through a hard season.
Not sure where to begin
Start with the free workbook
100+ guided conversations from the same method. It is what I hand couples in my office, and it costs nothing.
Shelf two · Everything in one place
The Master Edition, and the app that carries it
The Master Edition
1,500 questions to strengthen every area of your relationship
All five volumes in one book, fifteen chapters, with the questions arranged from easy to deep. The hardcover is the one couples give at weddings and anniversaries, and the one they return to for years.
The app · iPhone and Android
The same 1,500 questions, in your pocket
Fifteen topics, a relationship quiz, a daily check-in, and a place to send your partner something sweet. Twelve questions free, then one purchase unlocks everything for life. No subscription.
Print at home tonight
The Card Deck
150 questions in three levels: Curious, Closer, and Honest. Every one is new, and none of them appear in the books. It prints on 17 sheets of ordinary paper, with a pass rule on every card and a page for what to do if a question opens something bigger. Most decks go deep without a safe way to handle what comes up. This one was written by a therapist.
Get the deck, $14Instant PDF download
Shelf three · If you want a plan
Start With You
You cannot force your partner to change or drag them to therapy. The good news is you do not have to. Start With You is a book, a 90-day guided journal, and eight short videos that show one person how to shift a relationship individually, using the research of Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Sara Algoe.
See the program, $47Instant access · 90-day money-back guarantee
When your spouse struggles
Loving Your Spouse Through Anxiety
A partner’s guide to supporting them without judgment, resentment, or burnout. Written for the spouse who is not the one with anxiety, and who has never been handed a map.
Coming soon
Which one is for us?
Start where you actually are.
| If this sounds like you | Start with |
|---|---|
| We are building something new and want the foundation right | Vol. 1, Strengthen Your Foundation |
| We keep having the same argument and it never lands anywhere | Vol. 2, Strengthen Communication |
| We are more roommates than partners | Vol. 3, Reignite the Spark, or the Card Deck for a lighter start |
| We disagree about money, faith, or family | Vol. 4, Deepen Your Connection |
| We are facing a big decision or a hard season | Vol. 5, Building Our Future |
| I am ready to work on us, and my partner is not there yet | Start With You |
| One of us is living with anxiety and the other wants to help | Loving Your Spouse Through Anxiety (coming soon) |
| We are engaged and want to talk it all through before the wedding | The Premarital Edition |
| We just got married and want to mark the first year | Our First Year of Marriage |
| We want an easy, playful evening together | Couples Conversations Date Night |
| We want all of it, or a gift that lasts | The Master Edition, hardcover |
Shelf four · For the seasons of a marriage
New on the shelf
Three newer books for particular seasons: the months before the wedding, the first year of marriage, and an evening set aside for the two of you.
Book
Couples Conversations™: Premarital Edition
450 guided questions to discuss before you get married, in the order the conversations actually need to happen.
Coloring book
Couples Conversations™ Date Night
A conversation and coloring book for couples. Illustrated pages to color side by side, each one built around a real question and the follow up that takes it deeper.
Journal
Our First Year of Marriage: 365 Things We’re Grateful For
A hardcover journal with a place to write one thing each day that the two of you are grateful for, all through the first year together.
In production
Coming next
Names and formats only. No dates until the files are at the printer.
The Couples Conversations course series
Four courses, starting with Friendship: the research behind a lasting marriage, taught in short lessons you can watch together.
Want to hear when these are ready?
One note when each one ships, and nothing else. If you already have the free workbook, you are on the list.