Improve your marriage
individually.
One book teaches you the research. One journal walks you through it, day by day, for 90 days. One video series shows you exactly why it works. No partner required to begin.
Start With You
The foundational guide to improving your marriage individually.
$17 value
The Journal
The 90-day guided daily practice that turns insight into habit.
$27 valueVideo Course
7 companion videos on the research behind the journal.
$53 valueInstant download · 90-day money-back guarantee
Not another self-help book.
For the first time, this groundbreaking research gives one individual a real way to improve the relationship, without waiting for the other person to be ready.
This work is built upon decades of research by Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Sara Algoe.
One step that's fully in your hands.
90-day money-back guarantee. If your relationship doesn't feel different by the end, you get every penny back.
Couples Conversations materials, including this journal, are for informational and educational purposes and are not a substitute for therapy, counseling, or a clinical diagnosis or treatment.
The Start With You Book + Complete Guided Journal.
Even if you are not the journaling type, over the next 90 days, with just a few quiet minutes each day, you can create a real shift in how your relationship feels.
Step-by-step guidance
Walks you through the approach so you always know what to do next.
Communication tips
Practical ways to connect you can put to use right away.
Science-backed practices
Specific exercises for closeness, drawn from the research.
Guided journal prompts
Daily exercises for self-exploration, growth, and change.
Some couples are on the same page.
They work together to improve their relationship
- Both want to grow
- Both lean in
- Both ready to do the work together
Other couples can't agree
- One wants more than the other
- One is more content in the relationship
- One might be afraid to rock the boat
- One partner doesn't want to go to therapy
About the Author
Dr. Ari Sytner
Dr. Ari Sytner is a licensed clinical therapist, researcher, professor, author, and certified Gottman Couples therapist. He has spent years in the room with couples, listening to what they couldn't say to each other, watching what helped them move closer, and understanding what got in the way.
What he kept seeing was this: most couples didn't need to be in his office. They needed better tools, earlier. They needed someone to teach them the language of connection before the silence became the norm.
Couples Conversations™ is that resource. Not a quick fix. Not a script. A clinically-informed starting place for couples who aren't willing to wait.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Gottman Certified Couples Therapist · Emotionally Focused · Trauma Informed
Clinical Professor & Researcher
Yeshiva University Wurzweiler School of Social Work
Author, Founder & Educator
Couples Conversations™ Series · Sytner Consulting & Intervention, LLC
What readers are saying
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to move my marriage in the right direction.
I was skeptical at first, but actually saw real positive change within a few weeks!
Start With You was literally game changing. I've been recommending it to everyone I know.
What you get
Everything you need to begin, in one download.
- ✓ The Start With You Book. The full method: the why and the how of improving a marriage on your own.
- ✓ The Complete 90-Day Guided Journal. Short, science-backed daily prompts that turn the ideas into small, doable action.
- ✓ Step-by-step daily guidance. You always know the next small thing to do, even on the busy days.
- ✓ Instant download. Start tonight on any device, and print the journal at home.
A single hour with a couples therapist often costs hundreds of dollars, and getting both partners in the room is the hardest part. Start With You puts a research-based path in your hands today.
90-day money-back guarantee
Frequently Asked Questions
Honest answers to the questions readers ask most.
Can one person really improve a marriage?
More than most people expect. You cannot control your partner, but you can change the patterns you bring to the relationship, and those patterns shape how the two of you connect. In my clinical work, the people who begin on their own are often surprised by how much shifts before their partner ever consciously joins in.
What if my spouse won't take part, or doesn't even know I'm doing this?
That is exactly who this was built for. Start With You is designed to be done entirely on your own, in a few quiet minutes a day. Nothing here asks your partner to read anything, attend anything, or even know you are doing it. Many readers begin precisely because they are tired of waiting for the other person to be ready.
How is this different from couples therapy or another relationship book?
Therapy is invaluable, and this is not a replacement for it. What is different is that you can start today, on your own, for the price of a couple of coffees, with no scheduling and no one to convince. And unlike most relationship books, this pairs the why with a 90-day guided path, so the ideas become small daily actions instead of good intentions you forget by the weekend.
I'm not really the journaling type. Will this still work for me?
It will. The journal was built for people who do not journal. Each day gives you a clear, short prompt and simple guidance, so you are never staring at a blank page wondering what to write. A few minutes is enough.
How much time does it take, and how soon might I notice a difference?
Most days ask only a few quiet minutes. As for results, many of the people I work with start to notice small, real shifts somewhere around week three, a conversation that stays calm, a dinner that feels a little lighter. It is gradual and genuine, not an overnight fix.
What exactly do I get, and how do I receive it?
You get the full Start With You book and the complete 90-day guided journal, delivered to your inbox the moment you order. Read them on any device, your phone, tablet, or computer, or print the journal at home. There is nothing to wait for in the mail.
What if it isn't right for me?
Then you should not pay for it. Start With You is backed by a 90-day money-back guarantee. All we ask is that you give it a full try. Read it, use it for 90 days, and if it still has not helped, simply ask and you will get a full refund. The only real risk is not trying.