Backed by relationship research

Improve your marriage.On your own.

Start With YouA 90-day guided book and journal to improve your marriage individually.
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You can't force your partner to change, or drag them to therapy. The good news is you don't have to. A few quiet minutes a day, using core principles backed by science, is enough for one person to start shifting a relationship.

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Why this works

Not another self-help book.

For the first time, this groundbreaking research gives one individual a real way to improve the relationship, without waiting for the other person to be ready.

Closeness Acceptance Satisfaction Connection

This work is built upon decades of research by Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Sara Algoe.

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One step that's fully in your hands.

Start With You
A 90-day guided journal to improve your marriage individually. Written by Dr. Ari Sytner, LCSW, Gottman-certified couples therapist.
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90Day promise

90-day money-back guarantee. If your relationship doesn't feel different by the end, you get every penny back.

Couples Conversations materials, including this journal, are for educational purposes and are not a substitute for therapy, counseling, or a clinical diagnosis or treatment.

What's inside

A guided journal you'll actually use.

Over 90 days, a few quiet minutes a day of guided journaling adds up to a real shift in how your relationship feels.

Step-by-step guidance

Walks you through the approach so you always know what to do next.

Communication tips

Practical ways to connect you can put to use right away.

Science-backed practices

Specific exercises for closeness, drawn from the research.

Guided journal prompts

Daily exercises for self-exploration, growth, and change.

For relationships at any stage

Some couples are on the same page.

They work together to improve their relationship

  • Both want to grow
  • Both lean in
  • Both ready to do the work together

Other couples can't agree

  • One wants more than the other
  • One is more content in the relationship
  • One might be afraid to rock the boat
  • One partner doesn't want to go to therapy