All eight Field Guides in one download, for less than the price of four.
The Complete Toolkit brings every Field Guide together in one download. It adds a master index of every script across all eight guides, listed guide by guide with the moment each one is for. It also includes the bonus “20 Sentences That Calm Almost Any Fight,” two pages of lines that can help in many kinds of arguments. Think of the guides as specialized tools in your relationship toolkit, so that whichever of these conversations comes up next, there is already a guide ready for it.
$27, instant download, with the same guarantee as every guide.
The eight guides inside
No. 01 · 12 pagesThe Nagging Cycle ResetWords for both partners to step out of the cycle of reminding and tuning out, without either one having to win.
No. 02 · 11 pagesThe Mental Load Conversation GuideExplain the invisible work so it can be understood, then share it without a fight.
No. 03 · 12 pagesThe Phone Conversation ScriptTalk about phone checking and trust without it becoming an interrogation or a shutdown.
No. 04 · 12 pagesThe Lateness Pattern FixTalk about what chronic lateness has come to mean, and plan the logistics together.
No. 05 · 12 pagesThe First 90 Days After an AffairA steady map for the first 90 days after an affair comes to light, with words for both partners.
No. 06 · 12 pagesRepair Without Apologizing FirstTen ways to reconnect after a fight when you are not ready to say sorry.
No. 07 · 12 pagesThe Gentle Startup ScriptStart a hard conversation gently, so it has a chance to go the way you hoped.
No. 08 · 12 pagesThe Flooding Field GuideWhat to do when a partner overreacts, or you do, so one hard moment does not take over the whole night.What every guide includes
Each guide opens by explaining what is really happening in the pattern, then describes the research behind it in plain words, with the researchers named. It continues with scripts for the moments that tend to go wrong, one worksheet, one labeled composite example and a one-page cheat sheet. Everything comes in one PDF that reads well on a screen and prints clean at home, and each guide takes about twenty minutes to read.
The clinician behind Couples Conversations
Couples Conversations is the work of Dr. Ari Sytner, PhD, LCSW, a Certified Gottman Therapist, clinical professor at Yeshiva University’s Wurzweiler School of Social Work, and author of the Couples Conversations™ book series. For many years he has worked with couples in therapy, and the Field Guides were created to answer a question that often follows a helpful article: “Okay, but what do I actually say?”
Each guide names the research it draws on and stays within what that research supports. The scripts are written in the plain, everyday words couples use with each other, so they feel natural to say. The Toolkit keeps all eight guides together in one place, so the right one is easy to find on the day you need it.
All eight Field Guides in one download, for less than the price of four.
A simple guarantee
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There is no form to fill out, and no one will ask you to explain why. Because the Toolkit is an instant download, you can start reading right away and decide for yourself whether it helps.